A challenging time

The last few months have been a challenging time for me, in several  areas. Therefore I was not in any mood to write on my blog. I had to first deal with those situations, before I could talk about them. I have always been like that. When I am in a challenging or scary situation, […]

Loving memory

Two days ago I was attending the commemoration of the 10. anniversary of the departure of Dan Bar On, my very dear friend, teacher and mentor, who was one of the most important people in my life. In the commemoration many people from his lifetime were speaking about him, remembering him from early childhood until […]

What is love?

All my life I have been busy with those questions: What is love? How can I be a loving person? Can I love unconditionally? The closest I have come to an answer is by reading  Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving. I understand: Love is not a romantic feeling that we ‘fall into’. Love is […]


I am sitting in Ben Gurion airport, Tel Aviv, waiting for my flight back home to Berlin. This last month was an amazing journey. First of all I celebrated my birthday here, and I felt that it was a very special event, for many reasons. My ex -husband came with his oldest son, which was […]


Yesterday I stood again at the corner of this boulevard which means so much to me. Everytime I walk down this beautiful avenue I recall my dear friend, mentor and teacher Dan Bar On, Israeli professor of psychology, who lived here. The fact that I am here in Israel now is thanks to him. When […]


Sometimes… unexpected beautiful insights arrive. Yesterday someone said to me: “Can you grant yourself this?”(in German: “Kannst Du Dir das gestatten?”) I have been reflecting about this since. Granting myself my way of living, my way of loving, my way of doing or not doing things is so much more than just doing it. It […]


Last week I had  a very happy and special day. I had the honour and tremendous joy to graduate 4 beautiful women from the “Heal your Roots” (HyR) Family and Systemic Constellation and Trauma Healing Training at the Humaniversity in Holland. This training contains my lifelong experiences and therapeutic knowledge, combined together in a unique […]

Forgiveness and Compassion

Today is Yom Kippur for the Jewish community, the day of atonement, the highest Jewish holiday. Interestingly it made me think about the concept of forgiveness which is discussed with great diversity, not only  in the therapeutic world. These thoughts came up: Forgiveness could be an act to make me feel superior to the other: […]

Being authentic

Yesterday I had to make a choice: either to adjust to the wishes of a friend or to be true to myself. It was not an easy situation, because there were expectations and hopes on the other side, which I would disappoint if I stayed true to myself. But if I would follow his wishes […]

Moments of life

At this moment I am sitting in my living room in Tel Aviv, Israel, where I spend a month to teach, give sessions, enjoy meeting my friends, trying to cope with the heat, and generally being happy.    Life has blessed me all along the way until this day, and the more I become aware […]

Walk the walk

My very dear teacher and friend Veeresh said many years ago: When you want to be an authentic honest teacher, you have to be the same person on stage as you are behind the stage. Wow! This was truly a discovery for me. In my studies and in my education as a therapist I had […]

Living Young

Many times people ask me: What is it that makes you look so young? Well, I think, mostly it is, because I have good genes. But there is also something more to it. At one point in my life I chose to live exactly how I want to, make very little compromises (only if absolutely […]

Free Spirit

A dear friend calls me a “free spirit”. I agree. I am a free spirit! But what does that mean? For me it means that I think and act according to my own values and standards, that I do not compromise my values for the sake of money, acknowledgement, power, career, love, or anything else, […]

Healing and Love

I believe in the healing power of unconditional love. This may sound illusionary or naive, but it is my own experience. I grew up in an environment of violence, abuse and restrictions of all kinds. Love was not an issue, everything was about fitting into a religious system that dealt with guilt, shame, sin, confession, […]


Being alone and celebrating it can be a wonderful meditation. I am still in the process of learning and enjoying aloneness. Sometimes I really do, for instance in the morning, when I wake up, make myself the first cup of delicious coffee, take it back to bed, take my iPhone, read messages, answer mails, tuning […]

When the heart is turned upside down

In times of sadness, loss, grief, how can we be there for each other without violating the boundaries of each other?  Recently a dear friend lost a close friend of his who had died unexpectedly. I felt so sad for his loss, and I expressed this to him. I knew, that  there was no consolation […]

Born again

Today is the beginning of spring! This is the time of year when everything starts growing again. In nature and inside us there is a fresh new start, coming from what has been completed and fertilized during the dark season. As a symbol I like to look at this time as the time for new […]

Season Greetings

For this Christmas and Hanukka season I wish you all the love and blessings that you can receive. Follow your heart, your dreams, your passion. Do not allow fear to rule you. Take the fear with you and follow your own path. Be blessed, all the way.

Welcome to my new homepage

Welcome to my new homepage! I am very happy to present to you my new homepage, created with love and the wonderful support of Mandi Gould, a friend who I met in New York last year at the Frankie100 festival. This new page has so many new features to play with, and the best thing […]

Danke, dass du ein Teil meines Lebens bist und es auf so wunderbare Weise bereicherst.

“Ich lernte Sakino im Dezember 2006 im Rahmen meines Psychologie-Studiums bei einem Wochenendseminar zum Thema „Berufsfelder für Psychologen“ kennen. Sakino fiel mir damals vor allem dadurch auf, dass sie anders war als die anderen Referenten und ich mir nicht sicher war, ob ich im Seminar bleiben sollte. Gott sei Dank hat mich die Neugierde bleiben […]