In my understanding the healing process starts with uncovering the wounds, so that they can heal. This is true not only for physical wounds, but also for emotional, psychological wounds. And it is not only individual, but also collective. In the video I talk about my understanding of breaking the silence.
The Dan Bar On International Dialogue Center was founded in 2009, to honour and continue the work and legacy of the late Dan Bar On. I am trying to keep the IDC alive, that’s what this blog post is about. Dan Bar-On International Dialogue Center _____________________________________________ About us The main
This is a lecture I held for German colleagues about my work. It is mainly my life story and how I combine Constellations and Storytelling. It is in German. Dies ist ein Vortrag, den ich für Kollegen über meine Arbeit gehalten habe. Auf deutsch.
It is the season of hope, that there will be light again some day. Often we get trapped in fear and anxiety, even despair, especially in times like this. In my video this Sunday I want to encourage you to cherish hope. https://youtu.be/msWxs0YyidA For those of you who feel lonely and want to be with
Do you trust and follow your intuition? Whenever I do, my experience is a good one. Whenever I went against my ‘gut’ feeling, I found out that it would have been better to follow it. But it is not always easy, because our minds are strong fellas and often try to convince us with ‘reason’.
This week’s ‘Sakino on Sunday’ video is about intimacy. For me this theme is a very delicate and vulnerable one, and I believe, for many others too. Please share your thoughts with me, I will be very happy to read them. I wish you all to have people in your life that you can be
This photo says probably more than thousand words. It shows the participants of the 3. module of my ‘Heal your Roots’ Family and Systemic Constellation and Trauma Healing Training. We were listening to each other’s lifestories. Each story was so unique, so moving, and the listening deepened with every lifestory. Again I experienced this part
This week’s video is about the ‘Joy of Living’ . In my understanding living a joyful life includes all aspects of it, all emotions and feelings, not ‘just’ the ‘ beautiful’ ones. Waiting for better times to come after suffering through the hard times means we miss out. Live all of your life, include all,
2 weeks ago I attended an online retreat with Gabor Mate, which touched me deeply. It opened a channel for me to complete something important in my life. In this video I share about the completion process and why I think that completion is needed in order to move on in life. Please feel invited
Dear friends and loved ones, did you ever experience that someone listened to you, I mean really listened, without interrupting, judging, making comments, questioning your story or giving advice? How was that for you? Did you feel it as a healing? In which way was it healing? In this video I share my experiences in
Dear friends and loved ones, how are you? Really, how are you feeling? Is your patience being tested in these times? Mine certainly is. It is not easy to live in a time of uncertainty and insecurity, not knowing how and when this will end. I hope you have all the support you need to
Dear beloved friends, in this ‘Sakino on Sunday’ video I share with you a few exercises which I adapted from Peter Levine, the founder of Somatic Experiencing,( next to a few thoughts on Easter.) These exercises help me personally when I need to calm and relax and settle back into myself. I hope that they
Dear beloved friends, another week has passed, living in a new world, that is unpredictable and insecure for most of us. How are you dealing with this situation? What are your thoughts, feelings, emotions? How is your daily life unfolding? Do you feel supported? What do you need most of all? I have been reflecting
Two days ago I was attending the commemoration of the 10. anniversary of the departure of Dan Bar On, my very dear friend, teacher and mentor, who was one of the most important people in my life. In the commemoration many people from his lifetime were speaking about him, remembering him from early childhood until
Sometimes… unexpected beautiful insights arrive. Yesterday someone said to me: “Can you grant yourself this?”(in German: “Kannst Du Dir das gestatten?”) I have been reflecting about this since. Granting myself my way of living, my way of loving, my way of doing or not doing things is so much more than just doing it. It
Last week I had a very happy and special day. I had the honour and tremendous joy to graduate 4 beautiful women from the “Heal your Roots” (HyR) Family and Systemic Constellation and Trauma Healing Training at the Humaniversity in Holland. This training contains my lifelong experiences and therapeutic knowledge, combined together in a unique
Today is Yom Kippur for the Jewish community, the day of atonement, the highest Jewish holiday. Interestingly it made me think about the concept of forgiveness which is discussed with great diversity, not only in the therapeutic world. These thoughts came up: Forgiveness could be an act to make me feel superior to the other:
I believe in the healing power of unconditional love. This may sound illusionary or naive, but it is my own experience. I grew up in an environment of violence, abuse and restrictions of all kinds. Love was not an issue, everything was about fitting into a religious system that dealt with guilt, shame, sin, confession,
Being alone and celebrating it can be a wonderful meditation. I am still in the process of learning and enjoying aloneness. Sometimes I really do, for instance in the morning, when I wake up, make myself the first cup of delicious coffee, take it back to bed, take my iPhone, read messages, answer mails, tuning
Why should one attend a Family Constellation: Many of the issues that we face in our lives today are related to our family of origin, e.g.: Family or relationship issues, physical and/or psychological issues, such as heart disease, cancer, depression, anxiety, addiction, professional issues, and others. Family Constellation is a gentle yet powerful technique that
Believing in at least 6 impossible things before breakfast! I am a truly passionate Alice in Wonderland fan. In order to create the life that we want to live, it is in my understanding inevitable to be a little daring, and that starts with wishes and imagination of the seemingly impossible. Whether it is a